Essential oils have a powerful effect on the pleasure centers of the brain, and can (and should) be used to enhance erotic desire and bedroom play. This isn’t wishful thinking but an ancient healing modality grounded in science. Plants emit natural aphrodisiac pheromones to encourage pollinators to feast on their beauty. We get to use these pheromones (or plant perfume) in the form of essential oils to do the same thing. With a little bit of knowledge and some clever placement, you can have them eating out of the palm of your hand. In my twenty years of years, I have often employed essential oils to captivate the imagination of a potential suitor…and the results are too juicy to share.
There are many essential oils that truly stir the pot of desire. Here are my top 7.
Jasmine is a small, white, exotic flower with a tempting history. In India, Jasmine is called “moonshine of the garden”. Ancient Indian paintings depict lovers bathing in moonlight near jasmine plants (Jasmine is a night blooming flower which makes it all the more compelling). It has the ability to stoke fire and create a luscious, deep intimacy between partners. It’s a positively powerful erotic aphrodisiac and can be used in massage blends, in the bath or as a simple perfume. Jasmine is a brilliant essential oil that is traditionally used to treat frigidity, loneliness, and any female reproductive issues. It’s smell is truly enchanting.
Neroli is the small white orange blossom that is positively euphoric. At the end of the Crusades, orange blossoms were woven into a bride’s bouquet to ensure a hundred years of good luck, happiness and fertility. A bride who wore orange blossoms in her hair was proclaiming her virginity and chastity. Meanwhile in Madrid, ladies of the night wore neroli as a perfume to seduce and lure clients. Neroli is both sweet and scandalous, making it a valuable essential oil to tempt and tease. I love to use one drop of neroli on a spoon of honey, in the bath, or rubbed through my hair so that the rich aroma fills my surroundings. It is an aroma like no other.
Sandalwood is one of my favorite essential oils and it known to enhance one’s woo-ability. It smells delicious on both men and women’s skin, specifically on warmer skin like under armpits and in between legs. It blends beautifully with our unique aromas to invite sensual union. In Tantric tradition, lovers spread sandalwood on their bodies while celebrating the divinity of sexual ecstasy. Sandalwood is effective for massage, in the bath, or sprayed into the air. It cleanses the air and has a powerful ability to draw people together for love sweet love.
Most people have a positive association with cinnamon as it is one of the most common spices used the world over. It is excellent for flavoring foods, boosting the immune system and helping to ease any stomach ailment. Cinnamon is an effective aphrodisiac because it helps to disperse heat throughout the body, sending it exactly where it needs to go. Most people have a positive association with cinnamon. It blends beautifully with other aphrodisiac and culinary oils. It is best to use cinnamon diluted as too much of a good thing can cause irritation to the skin. Men seem to love the combination of vanilla, cinnamon and tangerine.
Cardamom is a positively delightful alternative to cinnamon with many of the same properties but with a decidedly different aromatic profile. It is warming, helps with expectoration and most importantly is an exotic euphoric with flavor and passion to spare. Cardamom can easily be added to any sweet or savory dish making it very effective for those hot and spicy moments, making them all the more compelling. Cardamom has been one of my favorite essential oils for years. I like to use to it in smoothies, for massage, as a perfume, or in the bath. Cardamom never disappoints.
- Ylang ylang
Ylang ylang is sometimes called cheap man`s jasmine. Ylang, while being inexpensive, is anything but cheap. It is a powerful, exotic and deeply erotic oil that draws you in, almost hypnotically. Most people react to ylang with the desire for more. In my twenties, I used ylang exclusively for about three years. Oh the foolishness and passion of youth. It calms stress and tension, treats anxiety and fans the flames of love. Ylang is very effective in massage, in the bath, on pulse points or dropped on the sheets. Don`t say I didn`t warn you.
Vanilla is hands down one of my favorite essential oils. It has a powerful, commanding aroma that is reminiscent of delicious sweet treats and steamy nights. Vanilla is a warming essential oil that helps to calm frigidity, promote circulation and ease anxiety, thus making it a powerful ally in the sensual aromatherapy apothecary. Many vanilla essential oils are C02 extracted, making them suitable for consumption in very small amounts. When you do, you will be elated by the warmth and subtle effect it provides.
Do you want to learn more about aromatherapy and sensuality? My new book, Aromatherapy for Sensual Living just came out this week. Click here to purchase your copy. Your love, life and health will never be the same. I wrote the book because I wanted to show the reader how to use essential oils in an easy, enjoyable and sexy way. After using them for 20 years, I have come to know them like dear friends. I want you to develop your own relationship with them and imbibe and thrive with authentic flower power.
Also, if you are in the Toronto area, please come to my book launch June 23rd at the Round Venue, 152A Augusta Ave in Kensington Market. 7:00-10:30 PM. There will be aroma treats and special passion cocktails for you to try. I can’t wait.
In love, light and steamy passion,